My first wife (and mother of my children) Denise is a smart and talented author. I still remember the first time she asked me to read an early copy of her work. She never let me do it again.
That being said, she recently released a new book, Earl, Honey. The book is loosely based on the real story of her family history. I enjoyed it. It's a southern coming-of-age story set in the 1920s - which is not my typical genre. Nevertheless, it's a poignant story with insight into the human condition, and its dramatic realities remind us how good we have it.
It's a story she learned, first via her grandmother, long after the events of the book take place. Those events shaped the lives of generations of her family.
It's a tough and heart-wrenching Southern Gothic read that covers incest, domestic abuse, and more. Check it out.
Here's the book's blurb from Amazon:
"Ever since Pa hit him in the head with the two-by-four, Earl had lived with blinders on. Not real blinders, of course, because that would be foolish. It was his own brain that blinkered him."
Earl Hahn is slow, the last one to catch on to things. Since the day his father hit him in the head with a 2x4 of loblolly pine, he's struggled with a "thickness in his brain." It takes him longer to make the connections others arrive at easily. When his father is prosecuted for the crime of incest, it feels like deliverance for Earl, his mother Lizzie Belle, and the entire Hahn family. Unfortunately, his father's abhorrent actions are not done exacting a price.
Everyone in the household will pay for their patriarch's crimes - no one more than Earl.
So begins a powerful coming-of-age tale about a shy, damaged boy who must overcome unimaginable personal tragedy - both as its victim and its perpetrator. Raw, honest, and filled with heart, Earl, Honey recounts an extraordinary search for redemption amid the perilous world of the 1920s American South.
What's In The Box? The Consequences of Labeling
The current socio-political climate has me thinking about the consequences of labeling things, creating boxes, and simplifying ideas into news-ready headlines.
With more news sources than ever and less attention span, you see ideas packaged into attention-grabbing parts. The focus isn't on education or the issues, but on getting the click, making your stay on their page longer, and sending you to a new article utterly unrelated to why you clicked on the page.
Complex issues are simplified – not even into their most basic forms – but instead into their most divisive forms ... because there's no money in the middle.
via Quote Investigator
The amplified voices are those on the fringe of the average constituents' beliefs – precisely because those are the ones who are often the most outspoken.
Issues that should be bipartisan have been made "us" versus "them," "liberal" versus "conservative," or "right" versus "wrong." The algorithms of most of these sites create echo chambers that increase radicalization and decrease news comprehension. Identity politics have gotten so strong that you see families breaking apart and friend groups disintegrating ... because people can't imagine sharing a room with someone they don't share the same values as.
via BrainyQuotes.
In psychology, heuristics are mental models that help you make decisions easier. They're a starting point to save mental bandwidth, allowing you to spend more brain cycles on the important stuff.
That's a great use of "boxes" and "simplification"… but it shouldn't preclude deeper thought on important issues.
In an ideal world, we would all have the bandwidth to view each case of an issue as a whole issue within itself. Most things are nuanced, and the "correct" answer changes as you change your vantage point.
I recognize that's not realistic.
Instead, I encourage you to remember to continue to think and learn ... even about things you already know. Confirmation Bias is one of the more common forms of cognitive bias. Here is an infographic that lists 50 common cognitive biases. Click to explore further.
via VisualCapitalist
Important issues deserve more research. New insights happen between the boundaries of what we know and don't. Knowledge comes from truly understanding the border between what you are certain and uncertain about.
I challenge you to look beyond the headlines, slogans, and talking points you like most. Look for dissenting opinions and understand what's driving their dissent. Are they really blind or dumb (or are their value systems just weighted differently)?
Not everything needs to be boxed. Not everything needs to be simple. You should explore things and people outside of your comfort zone and look to see things from their point of view ... not your own.
Applying This Lesson
I love learning a lesson in one space and applying it to other spaces. It's one of the cool things about AI. An algorithm can learn rules in the construction space that may help in the medicine or trading space. Everything's a lesson if you let it be.
In that vein, the lesson on labeling also applies to yourself and your business. Don't get me wrong - naming things is powerful. It can help make the intangible tangible. However, don't let the label (or your perception of the label) stop you from achieving something greater.
Many things are true because we believe them to be, but when we let go of past beliefs, the impossible becomes possible, and the invisible becomes visible.
We are our choices ... and you can make choices today that change who you are (and what you or your business is capable of) tomorrow.
Hope that helps – Onwards!
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