As we near the end of the year, I start to think about what I want for my future, and how far I’ve already come. It’s also a reminder that while I can extend my life – eventually, the clock stops.
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Death is often a trigger that sends my thoughts spinning: celebrating life; mourning death; imagining what lies in store for the family; empathizing with the survivors ... and even future-pacing to my death and memorial service.
In daily life, I often remind myself that ‘everything happens for a reason – and just because I can’t find the gift in a particular situation, doesn’t mean it isn’t there.
This is the anniversary of my Father’s death. When he died, I came out with a newfound respect for how precious life is. I decided it was time to stop thinking about what I do – and spend more time cultivating who I want to be. It also caused me to consider how I would be remembered – versus how I’d choose to be remembered.
Death is often a reminder to make the most of the time given to us.
In 2014, I gave a TEDx talk about the subject: The Time Value of a Life Worth Living.
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It was a reflection on my struggle with juggling work-life balance. It was about a year that brought my Dad’s death, the forced sale of my company by venture capitalists, and a divorce (in that order). Luckily, sometimes, life’s darkest days bring the greatest gifts … if you are willing to look for them.
One of my biggest takeaways from that struggle was about the time value of life.
In finance, the “time value of money” refers to the principle that the purchasing power of money varies over time (meaning, money today has more purchasing power than money later). In part, this is because the value of money at a future point in time might be calculated by accounting for other variables (like interest earned, inflation accrued, etc.).
It occurred to me that a similar calculation applied to life ... or living.
The above video is 13 minutes. Hopefully, you’ll watch ... but if not, I’ve added some of my favorite excerpts below.
Live Like You Only Have a Year Left.
“During the last part of my Dad’s life, I think he would have done almost anything for a little more time.
Things that used to be unimportant, or even mildly irritating, took on increased importance. For example, a dinner together became almost a sacred event; a kiss goodnight was truly heartfelt, and saying goodbye meant something ... because it could be the last time.
Nevertheless, as a result of that focus, he took more life out of that time.
Shouldn’t we do the same thing? Think about it: We will never be younger than we are right now. We are never going to have more time to fix a big mistake. Isn’t it likely that the time value of your life is worth maximizing?”
People Who Are Good Take Advantage of Opportunities. People Who Are Great Create Them.
“When I think back to that year, I spent so much time moving away from pain ... that I forgot to move towards opportunity. I feel like I wasted so much time.
My Dad said the difference between good and great is infinitesimal. People who are good take advantage of opportunities ... But people who are great create them.
I think what he meant was that when they see the opportunity, they move towards it. They shoot through it.
It is easy to say, “I see that opportunity; but it’s not the right time.” Or, “I see that opportunity, and I really want to remember it for when this is over.” And as much as I want to believe that’s true ... deep down, I know that it’s always a good time to take the right action.
Instead, “life” (the noun) often gets in the way of “living” (the verb).
To Change Your Life, Change Your Perspective.
“When you are ‘stuck’... a shift in role, or a shift in perspective, is often all you need to see a new path forward or a new possibility.
Have you ever been stuck playing a role you knew didn’t serve you? Where you knew what the best next step was, from your perspective, but you had a sense that it wasn’t the right action? Sometimes it makes sense to step back and ask, ‘What role can I play that would get a better result?’”
That is often all it takes to change the game. Other times, what it takes is the decision to play a new game.
Everyone has the same 24 hours each day. Some use it better than others.
Sometimes we are conscious of how we use this precious resource. Sometimes it gets away from us.
The average life expectancy for men in the U.S. is 76.
How many amazing vacations do you have left? How many jaw-dropping moments? How many fantastic meals? How many Super Bowls?
What about time with your parents or older relatives? It’s easy to forget to call or to miss an important event because “life happens,” but if you realize you may have already used 95% of your in-person time with that person ... doesn’t it become more special?
In my TEDx talk, I mentioned “living like you only have a year left,” and how much more “life” we got out of the last part of my Dad’s life.
How do you replicate that?
To start, think of some of the activities you do, places you go, and experiences you have that are special and make you feel like your best self.
- Hitting flow-state and creating something new and exciting;
- Taking an amazing vacation and experiencing something completely new;
- Having a moment with someone you love that makes you stop and say - Wow!
- Making a difference in someone’s day or giving back to your community;
- Experiencing peace and relaxation;
- Feeling pure joy.
It’s easy to get lost and take these moments for granted when they happen, but when you think about how much time you have left, they take a whole new meaning.
What would it take for you to get the most out of your life today? How can you maximize the time you have left? Fill it with the best experiences, activities, and people you can.
To start, think about different time frames:
- What activities could you commit to doing at least once a year?
- What activities could you commit to doing at least once a month?
- What activities could you commit to doing at least once a week?
- What activities could you commit to doing at least once a day?
Make those lists ... it is a simple way to get a better return on the time value of your life.
Seriously, try it.
Let me know how it worked for you – and what you chose.
Onwards!
How To Handle Scary Times
The last few weeks have been pretty volatile in the markets. OPEC reduced oil production by 2 million barrels a day, the Dow saw its worst day since 2020, the British PM, Liz Truss, resigned after only six weeks, and currencies around the world (including the Pound) are dropping precipitously in value.
With markets making new lows and volatility shaking out investors in both directions, I thought this would be an excellent time to talk about coping with losses and managing your anxieties during "scary times." I last shared this at the apex of COVID fear ... and it's just as relevant today.
The Anxiety Antidote
Many people are suffering from "I should have ...", or "if I would have ...", or "if I could have ..." thoughts.
The problem is that thoughts like those create more stress and distraction. They are a lens focused on loss, difficulties, past events, things that are missing, and what you don't want.
Think of them as an unhealthy reflex that wastes energy, confidence, and time.
All We Have To Fear Is Fear Itself
I often talk about market psychology and human nature. The reason is that markets reflect the collective fear and greed of its participants... people tend to get paralyzed during scary times like these.
But it's not the economy that makes people feel paralyzed. People feel paralyzed because of their reactions and their beliefs about the economy. Your perceptions become your reality.
A little examination reveals that most fear is based on a "general" trigger rather than a "specific" trigger. In other words, people are afraid of all the things that could happen and are paralyzed by the sheer scope of possibilities. These things don't even have to be probabilities in order to scare them.
You gain a competitive advantage as soon as you recognize that it's not logical. Why? Because as soon as you distinguish that fear as not necessarily "true", you can refocus your insights and energy on moving forward. You can act instead of react. You make better decisions when you come from a place of calm instead of fear... so create that calm.
Even a challenging environment, like this, presents you with opportunities if you watch for them ... or even better, if you create them.
The Scary Times Success Manual
The goal is to move forward and feel better. Strategic Coach offers ten strategies for transforming negativity and unpredictability into opportunities for growth, progress, and achievement. They call it the "Scary Times Success Manual," and what follows are some excerpts:
Forget about your difficulties; focus on your progress.
Because of some changes, things may not be as easy as they once were. New difficulties can either defeat you or reveal new strengths. Your body's muscles always get stronger from working against resistance. The same is true for the "muscles" in your mind, your spirit, and your character. Treat this whole period of challenge as a time when you can make your greatest progress as a human being.
Forget about events; focus on your responses.
When things are going well, many people think they are in control of events. That's why they feel so defeated and depressed when things turn bad. They think they've lost some fundamental ability. The most consistently successful people in the world know they can't control events - but continually work toward greater control over their creative responses to events. Any period when things are uncertain is an excellent time to focus all of your attention and energy on being creatively responsive to all of the unpredictable events that lie ahead.
Forget about what's missing; focus on what's available.
When things change for the worse, many desirable resources are inevitably missing - including information, knowledge, tools, systems, personnel, and capabilities. These deficiencies can paralyze many people, who believe they can't make decisions and take action. A strategic response is to take advantage of every resource that is immediately available in order to achieve as many small results and make as much daily progress as possible. Work with every resource and opportunity at hand, and your confidence will continually grow.
Forget about your complaints, focus on your gratitude.
When times get tough, everyone has to make a fundamental decision: to complain or to be grateful. In an environment where negative sentiment is rampant, the consequences of this decision are much greater. Complaining only attracts negative thoughts and people. Gratitude, on the other hand, creates the opportunity for the best thinking, actions, and results to emerge. Focus on everything that you are grateful for, communicate this, and open yourself each day to the best possible consequences.
Final Thoughts
The VIX (Cboe's Volatility Index) is regarded as the "Fear Index". While we saw spikes in early October, numbers are significantly lower than the spikes in 2020.
But, numbers have remained higher than pre-pandemic. To me, this shows how uncertain and anxious the average "trader" is with various global trends. We can discuss all the long or short-term causes of the rises and falls of markets, but I don't think it does much good. I let the algorithms worry about those.
I sound like a broken record, but volatility is the new normal.
Pair that with all the fear and uncertainty, and you've got a recipe for increased volatility and noise. That means that the dynamic range of a move will be wider and happen in shorter periods of time than ever before. You'll hear me echo this thought over the next few years as the ranges continue to expand and compress. Cycles that used to play out over weeks now take days or hours. The game is still the same, it just takes a slightly different set of skills to recognize where the risks and opportunities are.
There's a difference between investing and trading. On some level, I believe some humans can still invest well (assuming that they do the research, find an edge, and minimize the fear, greed, and discretionary mistakes that negatively impact results. However, for most people, believing that they can trade (personally) is dangerous. There are simply too many things to pay attention to – and the ratio of signal to noise is difficult to overcome as well.
The crucial distinction is between adding data and adding information. Adding more data does not equal adding more information. In fact, blindly adding data increases your chances of misinformation and spurious correlations.
Today's paradigm - both in life and in trading - is about noise reduction. It's about figuring out what moves the needle and focusing only on that.
Said a different way, if you don't know what your edge is, you don't have one.
Meanwhile, if you do know what your edge is (regardless of how scary the times are), keep calm and carry on.
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