Personal Development

  • The Hows and Whys of Firewalking

    090628 firewalking I recently went to a Tony Robbins seminar in Toronto. One of the highlights of the event was the Firewalk, which is a barefoot walk across red-hot embers.

    Learning the technique is not really that hard (it is basically walking at
    a normal pace, while not hesitating or tripping).  The hard part is doing that knowing that there are burning embers under your feet.

    It is breath-taking on several levels.  The firewalk is cool in-and-of-itself;
    isn't it?  So, it doesn't have to mean anything beyond doing
    it.  Yet, there are some great opportunities to make it more impactful by leveraging what you make the experience mean.

    For example you can use the
    experience as a powerful memory, triggering feelings of being able to do
    anything you commit to … or breaking through what used to be your limits.  Or the firewalk can be taken as a metaphor for life … and being able to put yourself into a resourceful state, and choosing to take the right action regardless of what's happening externally or in your mind.

    What Goes Through Your Mind?

    I was scared the first time I walked on fire. Even though I knew it would do it, when I got to the front of the line, looked down, saw the burning embers, and smelled the smoke … my mind wanted to scream "NO"!!  I had a whole lifetime of conditioning that touching hot things was dangerous, and certainly walking barefoot across hot coals made little sense to my logical mind, and even less sense to that primal instinct part of the mind that's there to protect me.

    That's why many of the techniques used in the seminars revolve around getting into a peak state, and filling your head with phrases that you repeat again, and again, and again. If you're saying "yes", "yes", "yes" … There's no room for your brain to say "no".

    Is It State of Mind … Or Science?

    I'm not going to pretend I understand the science of why it's possible to walk barefoot for 30 or 40 feet across burning coals, without injuring yourself. But you don't have to be a scientist to guess that hesitating in the middle might have painful consequences.  This video is well done and explains a lot.

    Here is a link to the video, and a post from the Skeptic's Dictionary about how fire-walking works.

    It is Better the Second Time Around.

    I've done the firewalk many times now, and still enjoy it. It's really interesting to watch the faces of people doing it for the first time. Some express abject terror, others pump themselves up into a manic state, while still others follow the crowd with a glazed look on their face.

    0906028 HMG Safe and HappyThis time, I tried something different than what I've done before. Instead of working myself into a peak state and charging across the coals triumphantly, I wanted to do it from a place of calm resolve. To me this is a different type of peak state.

    In some ways it's about being more present to the situation and my own capabilities. Since I had done this before, being afraid would be somewhat irrational (however emotions do not have to be logical). I didn't want to numb myself to the experience by focusing internally, or by jacking-myself-up into a warrior state; instead I wanted to enjoy the sights, sounds, and smells of what was happening — and how cool it was to do this from a purposeful intent.

    A Little Bit of Mastery Goes a Long Way.

    As a trader, the winning, losing, and the uncertainty and certainly trigger fear, greed, and doubt. Learning to master these states, and keeping a clear head, leads to a much longer career.

    It's funny, because I wasn't sure that going through this exercise again would have the same impact. It did, just for different reasons than I have before. I highly recommend it. Feel free to contact me if you have questions or comments.  I'd love to hear about your experiences.

  • Pixar’s “UP” an Eye-Opener

    090621 Pixar UP I highly recommend seeing the new DisneyPixar movie, UP, in 3-D.  It was terrific … much better than I hoped or expected.

    Frankly, when my son asked me to see it with him, I agreed reluctantly.  As he later reminded me, Pixar movies usually are better than you'd guess.

    The animation was as good as I expected.  Yet, the 3-D effects were the best I've seen, because it seemed real and natural, rather than a gimmick.

    On the surface, this adventure comedy is about an old-man trying to fulfill his lifelong dream to see the wilds of South America.  Then soon after setting-out, he learns he isn't alone on his journey, since a
    wilderness explorer — 70 years his junior — has somehow become a
    stowaway on the trip.

    The story and underlying message were good and uplifting. And not just because the old-man choice of transportation was to tie thousands of balloons to his home.

    It is worth the few extra dollars to see this in 3-D.

  • Pixar’s “UP” an Eye-Opener

    090621 Pixar UP I highly recommend seeing the new DisneyPixar movie, UP, in 3-D.  It was terrific … much better than I hoped or expected.

    Frankly, when my son asked me to see it with him, I agreed reluctantly.  As he later reminded me, Pixar movies usually are better than you'd guess.

    The animation was as good as I expected.  Yet, the 3-D effects were the best I've seen, because it seemed real and natural, rather than a gimmick.

    On the surface, this adventure comedy is about an old-man trying to fulfill his lifelong dream to see the wilds of South America.  Then soon after setting-out, he learns he isn't alone on his journey, since a
    wilderness explorer — 70 years his junior — has somehow become a
    stowaway on the trip.

    The story and underlying message were good and uplifting. And not just because the old-man choice of transportation was to tie thousands of balloons to his home.

    It is worth the few extra dollars to see this in 3-D.

  • Clusters of Thoughts

    It surprises me how many of
    my thoughts cluster on a particular theme for a period of time. I guess it makes sense because I think and write about things
    I notice that catch my interest.  And as my focus changes from time to time,
    what interests me changes.  It is kind of like not being able to get a song out of your head … only it's about what you focus on.

    090614 Tony RobbinsI heard a good explanation for this at a Tony Robbins seminar this week.

    He
    has an exercise where you open your eyes and look around the room,
    paying attention to anything that has a bright green color to it.

    Try it, look around the room noticing everything you can remember that has green in or on it.

    Then
    close your eyes, and without looking around again, try to remember
    anything that was red.  You probably can remember a lot more green
    things, than red things.

    Tony calls this "reticular activation".
    But it's just a fancy name for the same reason that if you buy a white
    Lexus, all of a sudden you see white Lexus cars everywhere you go. The
    things you focus-on show up more often in your life simply because you
    notice them more often.

    If you're curious, this week, the theme that I'm noticing in my personal, professional and business life is time, speed and pace. Here's a link to that post.

  • Clusters of Thoughts

    It surprises me how many of
    my thoughts cluster on a particular theme for a period of time. I guess it makes sense because I think and write about things
    I notice that catch my interest.  And as my focus changes from time to time,
    what interests me changes.  It is kind of like not being able to get a song out of your head … only it's about what you focus on.

    090614 Tony RobbinsI heard a good explanation for this at a Tony Robbins seminar this week.

    He
    has an exercise where you open your eyes and look around the room,
    paying attention to anything that has a bright green color to it.

    Try it, look around the room noticing everything you can remember that has green in or on it.

    Then
    close your eyes, and without looking around again, try to remember
    anything that was red.  You probably can remember a lot more green
    things, than red things.

    Tony calls this "reticular activation".
    But it's just a fancy name for the same reason that if you buy a white
    Lexus, all of a sudden you see white Lexus cars everywhere you go. The
    things you focus-on show up more often in your life simply because you
    notice them more often.

    If you're curious, this week, the theme that I'm noticing in my personal, professional and business life is time, speed and pace. Here's a link to that post.

  • Seth Godin: Why Tribes, Not Money Or Factories, Will Change The World

    Terrific video from the TED series.

    Seth Godin argues the Internet has ended mass marketing and revived a human social unit from the distant past: tribes. Founded on shared ideas and values, tribes give ordinary people the power to lead and make big change. He urges us to do so.

    Direct link to the Seth Godin's Tribe Talk at TED.

    I'm seeing more examples of Tribes. For example, Facebook and Twitter have become an important part of my day and business process.  I am pleasantly surprised by how many people have offered ideas, opinions and insights that make a difference and move things forward.

    Everything old is new again.  Welcome to the tribe.

  • Seth Godin: Why Tribes, Not Money Or Factories, Will Change The World

    Terrific video from the TED series.

    Seth Godin argues the Internet has ended mass marketing and revived a human social unit from the distant past: tribes. Founded on shared ideas and values, tribes give ordinary people the power to lead and make big change. He urges us to do so.

    Direct link to the Seth Godin's Tribe Talk at TED.

    I'm seeing more examples of Tribes. For example, Facebook and Twitter have become an important part of my day and business process.  I am pleasantly surprised by how many people have offered ideas, opinions and insights that make a difference and move things forward.

    Everything old is new again.  Welcome to the tribe.

  • Some Mother’s Day Thoughts

    Mothers Day SomeE-Card  To those of you with young children, here is a peek into your future.

    After years of hard work and your best efforts (OK, mostly your best efforts) … I predict that your adorable bundles of joy will someday wish they could send you this card.

    So, take a moment to think about your Mom … and remember that she was very young when she did those things to you …

    … and what you make them mean is up to you.

  • Some Mother’s Day Thoughts

    Mothers Day SomeE-Card  To those of you with young children, here is a peek into your future.

    After years of hard work and your best efforts (OK, mostly your best efforts) … I predict that your adorable bundles of joy will someday wish they could send you this card.

    So, take a moment to think about your Mom … and remember that she was very young when she did those things to you …

    … and what you make them mean is up to you.

  • You Focus On What You Measure

    090410 One Day at a Time AttackedI have the privilege of knowing many fine entrepreneurs. Some of them are doing surprisingly well. Others are licking their wounds and struggling with the loss of confidence in their business, their business model, or even themselves.

     On some level, recent events could represent the biggest failure that some of these people ever have in their lives.

    There are several ways to take that. Here's one to think about.

    What would you do if you knew your worst failure was behind you and everything from this point forward was a move upwards or at least provides an opportunity to make progress?

    I Sense A Lot of Pain.

    If you look at
    things based on cycles or seasons, then this probably has been winter.  Still, periods like this can teach you a lot about yourself.

    I got a phone call this week from a friend who asked where I've been hiding. I was surprised because I hadn't thought about it like that.  Yet, it didn't take much reflection to see that many people I know, including me, have been hiding in one way or another.

    For example, one of my closest friends hasn't been returning phone calls. That is one of his early warning signs that tells me he is having a tough time. And several unquestionably smart, resourceful, and successful businessmen have broken down into tears recently while talking to me about the circumstances in which they find themselves.  I get it; there is a lot of pain out there right now.

    It affects me too.  A business group that I've participated in for almost 10 years is going on its annual retreat this week. It's designed to be fun and a vehicle to reconnect with ourselves and each other. It's a time for reflection, sharing and hopefully for new insight. Yet, there's a part of me that doesn't want to go.

    If I'm honest with myself, it is probably because I don't want to re-examine what happened during the past year.  In other words, I don't want to reflect on what went wrong, again, because I've done that enough already.

    But going to the retreat doesn't have to be about that at all. In fact, instead of it being an unpleasant exercise focusing on what I don't want … it easily can be when I focus on what I do want, and how I'm going to get there in a way that's best for everyone involved. The only difference in those two retreats is what I make it mean – and of course what happens because of that.

    You Focus on What You Measure.

    So, it occurs to me that I might be measuring the wrong things in several areas. Just because I used to keep score one way, doesn't mean that it's a helpful measure for me now.

    Measurement is supposed to give you a sense of your momentum towards your target. Done right, it helps you feel more confident and in-control. Sure it tells you what to do less of … more importantly, though, it highlights what we can and should do more of.

    Cleansing Or Clogging?

    I remember being in a Tony Robbins seminar about health and hearing a simple rule that made sense to me about eating. He said: before you put something in your mouth think about whether it's cleansing or clogging. That made sense to me, and it was helpful. The same could hold true for deciding which things to focus on in business or life. Will focusing on this create momentum and energy, or not? 

    On some level pain is inevitable.  Yet, for the most part, suffering is optional.

    Choose what makes you strong and more likely to take actions that make progress.