Personal Development

  • Musk vs. Zuckerberg: Fight Of The Century

    In today’s “Truth is Stranger than Fiction” episode, Elon Musk and Mark Zuckerberg seem to be discussing a "cage match." But, for those of us who have been around awhile, we remember the first real billionaire fight when Herb Kelleher, co-founder of Southwest Airlines, settled a business dispute with a rival by arm wrestling in front of an audience at an arena, in an event dubbed “Malice in Dallas.” 

    This supposed cage fight started because Elon responded to someone on Twitter saying, “I’m up for a cage match if he is lol” to which Zuckerberg posted an Instagram story saying, “Send Me Location.”

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    Supposedly, there’s a real chance they do it, and talks they may do it in Vegas.  

    Now, their beef isn’t new. Back in 2016, Musk’s SpaceX was contracted to shuttle a satellite into orbit for Facebook. During a routine test, an explosion on the ground caused the satellite to be destroyed, and Zuck to say, “I’m deeply disappointed to hear that SpaceX’s launch failure destroyed our satellite that would have provided connectivity to so many entrepreneurs and everyone else across the continent.”

    Ever since, they’ve been going at it. They take different stances on AI. They’ve gotten off each other’s platforms, etc. 

    So … who do you think will win?

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  • Happy Father’s Day 2023

    This year, Father's Day was smaller than usual.  My wife, Jennifer, is in Indonesia, and my older son is on the west coast. 

    Meanwhile, my younger son, Zach, took me to one of our favorite Asian restaurants with his new Fiancée, Sloane. 

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    I've been calling her my daughter-in-law since he brought her home (because some things are inevitable and easy to recognize). 

    Reflecting on the past year, I'm grateful for my granddaughter (from my married son, Ben, and his wife).  And, I'm also grateful that Zach and Sloane got engaged and started to plan the rest of their lives together (and hopefully more grandchildren for me). 

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    As a father, having great kids is a double blessing.  On one hand, it's nice to be proud of who your kids are and the things they do.  On the other hand, it's also nice to feel proud of the small part you played in helping them become who they are.  

    Of course, I also look back … and spent some time thinking about my father and his terrific influence on so many lives.  

    My Dad believed in setting high standards.  He explained that most people's lives are defined by their minimum standards.  Why?  Because once those standards are met, it is easy to get distracted by other things (and figuring out how to meet the minimum standards for them as well).

    He was also my best friend. 

    I see so much of him in myself, and in my children, and many of the aphorisms I teach come from him.  I'm grateful that I can still see his impact on the world. 

    Hope you had a nice Father's Day weekend too. 

  • Is It The News Or Propaganda?

    There is nothing wrong with your television.  We will control all that you see and hear. We can deluge you with a thousand channels or expand one single image to crystal clarity and beyond. We can shape your vision to anything our imagination can conceive.  Enjoy ….

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    The original, from The Outer Limits TV show was: 

    There is nothing wrong with your television set. Do not attempt to adjust the picture. We are controlling transmission. If we wish to make it louder, we will bring up the volume. If we wish to make it softer, we will tune it to a whisper. We will control the horizontal. We will control the vertical. We can roll the image; make it flutter. We can change the focus to a soft blur or sharpen it to crystal clarity. For the next hour, sit quietly and we will control all that you see and hear. We repeat: there is nothing wrong with your television set. You are about to participate in a great adventure. You are about to experience the awe and mystery which reaches from the inner mind to the outer limits.

    As a society, we're fairly vulnerable to groupthink, advertisements, and confirmation bias

    We believe what we want to believe, so it can be very hard to change a belief, even in the face of contrary evidence. 

    Since the past election cycle, we've seen a massive uptick in distrust toward news agencies, big companies, the government, and basically anyone with a particularly large reach. 

    To a certain degree, this is understandable and justified. Here is an example of the power of the media focused on a message.  Click to watch.

     

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    Propaganda has always been an issue, and almost everyone does it; governments, companies, etc. Luckily, it's easier to see today than in the past, but unluckily it's also more pervasive and insidious than before. 

    It's to the point where if you watch the news you're misinformed, and if you don't watch the news you're uninformed. 

    The above segment portrays a rosy picture of Amazon's efforts to protect its workers while delivering essentials to the struggling homebound masses. This comes while Amazon has come under massive fire for removing some of its protections

    Honestly, I use Amazon and, in my opinion, this isn't a massive breach of trust. News stations have a lot of time to fill, they often have sponsored content.

    That being said, it's something to be cognizant of – not necessarily offended by.

    Personally, I believe I am reasonably aware and somewhat immune from propaganda. That probably isn't as true as I'd like to believe.

    It used to be true that winners wrote history (think empires, wars, etc.). Now, the one that delivers the most broadcast narratives shapes the emotional and seemingly logical responses to what we perceive to be happening around us.

    The result impacts elections, financial markets, buying choices, and countless other areas of our life. 

    As A.I., Bots, and social media grow, our ability to discern truth from 'truthiness' weakens. It's becoming even more of an issue with AI-based depictions of presidents in both image and video.

    It's a great reminder that what you're seeing and hearing is carefully manufactured, and hopefully, it encourages you to get outside your bubble. 

    I think one of the worst consequences of the past few years is the unwillingness of mass swaths of Americans to listen to voices they disagree with. The internet has already created echo chambers, but it's being exacerbated by vitriol. As a result, I think we're seeing the fringe of both parties move further away from the middle. 

    What do you think?

  • The World’s Top 25 Websites in 2023

    What are the most popular websites in the world by web traffic? 
     

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    It's unsurprising that Google and social media top the list, but it is interesting to see OpenAI becoming the 17th most visited site last month – with 1.8 billion visits – despite being very new to the scene in comparison to its competitors. 

    Easy to forget, but also unsurprising is the prevalence of adult websites on this list. One of my most popular articles ever was titled "How Long Does It Take To Get To 50 Million Users?" in it, the takeaway was that Pornhub did it 19 days – faster than anyone else … up until ChatGPT. Part of the popularity of that article is because Pornhub has very in-depth statistics about its yearly use.

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    So we know that people care about making their jobs easier at least a little bit more than pornography. I'll take it. 

    Eventually, all technology collides with human nature. 

  • Turning Trials Into Triumphs

    Many of our best decisions, timeliest course corrections, or most significant innovations occur after a seemingly disastrous occurrence.  That's why many psychologists and self-help gurus encourage people to focus on the hidden gift that many of these experiences provide.

    It's there if you look for it.  That painful event becomes the catalyst for either something new, a better way, or a level-up. 

    Of course, that's not the case for everyone or every event … It takes the right mindset and the right actions to turn a trial into a triumph. 

    As we come out of a massive world transformation, and into a new one with the surge in A.I., I think back to 2008 and how a prior incarnation of algorithms fared against it (spoiler alert: not nearly as well as this time).  They say the things that don't kill you make you stronger.  Here's my trial into triumph story about that. 

     

    Too many people become a victim of their circumstances instead of choosing to be the master of their destinies. 

    Life's harder for people that live a life of least resistance.  Doing the hard things, and making the most of bad times, makes your life not only better … but, ultimately, easier. 

    Tony Robbins calls this Threshold of Control.  If you push through the fear and the struggle … as you persevere, eventually, what was scary becomes easy.  You've increased your threshold, and that's often a permanent improvement.  

    Examining several instances from my past, here is a list of the seven steps I use to transform almost any situation.

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    1. Accept Reality: We are where we are.  Focus on being complete with what happened before this – and think about this as a new beginning with an even bigger future.
    2. Do Something Positive: Take action and build momentum and confidence.  Big wins are great.  Yet, in scary times, even small items are worth noting, building upon, and stacking.  Let progress build positive momentum for you.
    3. Take Care of Yourself: Increase your physical activity, meditation, and massage.  Take time to eat and sleep well.  Many studies show decision-making suffers when you're stressed.  Taking care of yourself goes a long way to making many other things better.
    4. Communicate More: The natural tendency is to hide or to recuperate in private.  Instead, be open and receptive to help and ideas from friends, partners, or wherever it may come.
    5. Creative Destruction: The old game and the old ways of thinking are over.  Shift your energy to what is working.  Commit to the result you want rather than the process.
    6. Increase Your Options: It often takes a different level of thinking to solve a problem than the level of thinking that got you there in the first place.  So, be open to new opportunities, new possibilities, and more ways to win.
    7. Choose a Bigger Future: Instead of resigning yourself to playing small and doing with less, recognize that a clearing creates space for something even better.  Choose what you want and call it into existence through your thoughts and actions.

    They say everything happens for a reason.  The secret is that you get to choose the reason, what it means to you, and what you're going to do about it.  Choose well, and someday you could look back on this time as one of the best things that ever happened to you.

  • Speed Matters: The Pace of Success

    Capitalogix started in my home.  The first employee sat at a tiny desk behind me.  Their job was to exit the trades I entered.  This was an early attempt to avoid the fear, greed, and discretionary mistakes that humans bring to the business of trading.

    We started to grow … and somehow got to 23 people working in my home.  It literally overtook my office, dining room, and the entire upstairs.  Neighbors noticed (and expressed their displeasure).

    Looking back, it seems crazy (and my wife seems Saintly).  But somehow, at the time, it felt natural. 

    Incubating the company in my home, and growing it the way we did, resulted in a closeness (a feeling much like family) that pays dividends, even today.

    Speed matters … both fast and slow.  

    I shot a video on the subject.  Check it out

     

    There is a concept in business expressed by the phrase "measure twice and cut once."  It's much easier to do something the right way from the beginning rather than trying to fix it after you mess it up. 

    It saves time and creates a better end result. 

    Beginning with the end in mind is powerful.  I often spend what looks like "too much" time imagining the bigger future.  What will things look like when we are ten times bigger?  Who will we serve?  What dangers will keep me up at night?  What opportunities will we be trying to attract or capture?  What strengths will give us confidence?  Who will we be collaborating with … and about what?  It helps build a roadmap that makes it easier to understand whether particular activities are aligned with our future (or just something we are doing now). 

    I prefer to optimize on the longer term rather than the shorter term.  That isn't always possible or practical, but that is my preference when it is.

    Pace is important – and a focus on "what's the best next step" is an important driver at Capitalogix, but sometimes in order to go fast, you have to go slow.  You may miss out on something, but the ultimate payoff is often worth it. 

    It's a good lesson for personal growth as well.  There is no right timeline.  No one size fits all.  Take your time.  Find your path.

     

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    Hope that helps. 

  • A Look Back At Simon Sinek’s ‘Start With Why’

    In 2009, Simon Sinek talked to my EO Chapter, and then came to my office to speak with our team.  This was right at the beginning of his meteoric rise, two short months after the release of his famous book "Start With Why." 

    Here's the article I wrote in 2009:

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    6a00e5502e47b288330120a760ef7a970bInspiration is stronger than persuasion.  It gives people a sense of purpose and belonging that has little to do with external incentives or benefits.

    Simon Sinek, who is quite charismatic and well-spoken, is delivering this message to a rapidly growing fan base. 

    My team thought Simon was inspiring, engaging, and insightful.

    You can watch a short video that introduces his material below. 

    In addition, you can explore more of his ideas in his book,
    Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action.

    An Example of Finding the Right Person for a Job.

    Who do you believe will do a better job, someone who takes a job because of the salary and benefits … or someone truly inspired to accomplish the job's purpose? 

    Phrased that way, of course, you know the answer.  Still, how can you leverage this to better select customers and employees?

    For example, Simon uses the story of Sir Ernest Shackleton to illustrate this concept.  Shackleton was preparing to lead the first expedition across Antarctica in 1914.  Legend has it that when seeking crew members for his journey, Shackleton placed the following ad in a newspaper:

    6a00e5502e47b288330120a77e4063970b-800wi"MEN WANTED FOR HAZARDOUS JOURNEY. SMALL WAGES, BITTER COLD, LONG MONTHS OF COMPLETE DARKNESS, CONSTANT DANGER, SAFE RETURN DOUBTFUL. HONOUR AND RECOGNITION IN CASE OF SUCCESS.
    – SIR ERNEST SHACKLETON"

    When the expedition became stuck in the ice and could not be rescued for 22 months, not a single man was lost.  The reason Simon gave for their unlikely survival was that Shackleton hired survivors that could deal with the situation and were aligned with the mission and purpose.

    Can you imagine writing an ad like that to attract the right people to your cause?

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    Here is a video of Simon speaking at a TED Conference.  It is an excellent intro to his stuff. 

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    It's now more than ten years later, and Simon is one of the most prominent leaders in leadership development and has published five books, to much acclaim. 

    Part of his success is the charisma and pith with which Simon speaks and writes – but a large part is his focus on what makes humans human.  He's not preaching a leadership mantra focused on the bottom line and revenue; he's focused on the aspects of human nature that don't change.  He's focused on purpose and the elements of leadership that apply to everyone – not just CEOs. 

    As we move into an era of increased volatility – both in markets and business – these leadership principles will become more important. 

    Understanding your "WHY" is vital if you want to make a difference (and not be replaced by an AI). 

    If you haven't read any of his books, they're all good, but I suggest "Start With Why" and "The Infinite Game."

  • A Lesson From My Grandmother … On AI

    I was at an event last week where (unsurprisingly) we focused heavily on AI.  Conversations ranged from use cases for generative AI (and the ethics of AI image creators) to the long-term effects of AI and its adoption.

    Before I could chime in, the conversation had gone to the various comparisons from past generations.  When electricity was harnessed, articles claimed that it would never catch on, it would hurt productivity, and what of the artisans it would potentially put out of business if it were to gain traction. 

    When the radio or TV was released, the older generation was sure it would lead to the death of productivity, have horrible ramifications, and ultimately lead to the next generation's failure. 

    People resist change.  We're wired to avoid harm more than to seek pleasure.  The reason is that, evolutionarily, you have to survive to have fun. 

    On the other hand, my grandmother used to say: "It's easy to get used to nice things." 

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    Here's a transcript of some of my response to the discussion: 

     

    With AI, getting from "Zero-to-One" was a surprisingly long and difficult process.  Meaning, getting AI tools and capabilities to the point where normal people felt called to use it because they believed it would be useful or necessary was a long and winding road.  But now that everybody thinks it's useful, AI use will no longer be "special".  Instead, it will become part of the playing field.  And because of that, deciding to use AI is no longer a strategy.  It's now table stakes.

    But that creates a potential problem and distraction.  Why?  Because, for most of us, our unique ability is not based on our ability to use ChatGPT or some other AI tool of the day.  As more people focus on what a particular tool can do, they risk losing sight of what really matters for their real business.

    Right now, ChatGPT is hot!  But, if you go back to the beginning of the Internet, MySpace or Netscape (or some other tools that were first and big) aren't necessarily the things that caught on and became standards.

    I'm not saying that OpenAI and ChatGPT aren't important.  But what I believe is more important is that we passed a turning point where, all of a sudden, tons of people started to use something new.  That means there will be an increase of focus, resources, and activity concentrated on getting to next in that space.

    You don't have to predict the technology; it is often easier and better to predict human nature instead.  We're going to find opportunities and challenges we wouldn't because of the concentration of energy, focus, and effort.  Consequently, AI, business, and life will evolve.

    For most of us, what that means is that over the next five years, our success will not be tied to how well we use a tool that exists today, but rather on how we develop our capabilities to leverage tools like that to grow our business. 

    But your success will not be determined by how well you learn to use ChatGPT.  It will be determined by how well you envision your future and recognize opportunities to use tools to start making progress toward the things you really want and to become more and more of who you really are.  Right?

    So, think about your long-term bigger future?  Pick a time 5, 10,  or even 20 years from now.  What does your desired bigger future look like?  Can you create a vivid vision where you describe in detail what you'd like to happen in your personal, professional, and business life?  Once you've done that, then try to imagine what a likely midpoint might look like?  And then, using that as a directional compass, try to imagine what you can do in this coming year that aligns your actions with the path you've chosen?

     

    Ultimately, as soon as you start finding ways to use emerging technologies in a way that excites you, the fear and gloom fade.

    The best way to break through a wall isn't with a wide net, but rather with a sharp blow.  You should be decisive and focused. 

    I remember being an entrepreneur in the late 90s (during the DotCom Bubble).  And I remember watching people start to emulate Steve Jobs … wearing black turtlenecks and talking about which internet company would be the "next big thing" at social gatherings.  Looking back, an early sign that a crash was coming was that seemingly everybody had an opinion on what was going to be hot, and too many of them were overly confident. 

    The point is that almost nobody talks about the Internet that way anymore … in part because the Internet is now part of the fabric of society.  At this point, it would be weird if somebody didn't use the Internet.  And you don't really even have to think about how to use the Internet anymore because there's a WHO to do almost all those HOWs. 

    The same is going to be true for AI.  Like with any technology, it will suffer from all the same hype-cycle blues … inflated expectations and then disillusionment.  But, when we come out the other side, AI will be better for it … just like the Internet, the silver screen, or even radio stations. 

    Earlier, I mentioned how long it took to get from "Zero-to-One" with AI.  But we're still at like three" or a "five" on a 100-point scale.  Meaning, you are at the beginning of one of the biggest and most asymptotic curves that you can imagine.  And you're not late … you're early!  Even the fact that you're thinking about stuff like this now means that you are massively ahead.

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    The trick isn't to figure out how to use AI or some AI tool.  The trick is to keep the main thing the main thing.

    Investing resources into your company is one thing.  Realize that there are 1000s of these tools out there, and many more coming.  You don't have to build something yourself.  It is often faster and better to acquire a tool than it is to spend money on developing and building it.

    Think of the Medici family.  They invested in people, which in turn triggered the Renaissance.  A key to moving forward in the Age of AI will be to invest in the right people who seek to create the kind of world you want to see.  Think of this as a strategic investment into creators and entrepreneurs with a vision who are on a path that aligns with yours.

    As you get better and better at doing that, you'll see increasing opportunities to use tools to engage people to collaborate with and create joint ventures.  Ultimately, you will collaborate with technology where it's your thought partner and then your business partner.  We are entering exciting times where AI, automation, and innovation will make extraordinary things possible for people looking for opportunities to do extraordinary things.